Disengage

Marriage?! … no not for me

09 Jan 2011 2 Comments

by disengage in Blah BLAH, Married, Uncategorized

A trend i am seeing among my friend community for a while now … ‘I am too young for marriage’; ‘Its too early for me to marry’; ‘I havent found the perfect girlfriend/ boyfriend.’

It’s not true for few of my friends but a whole truck load of them falling in the age group of 25-29. This category is earning, independent, living with the parents and spending money and time on pursuits like drinking/ dancing. The wtbyf (Want to be Young Forever) category.

wtbyf , has too many options, too much dissatisfaction and too much of wanting more, wanting something better and never (never ever) loosing faith that there is something great just waiting round the corner.

I have been in close contact with wtbyf, in fact I was one of them about two years back. But now when I look from the outside on whats going on in the inside I am able to ascertain few facts that i feel are the reason for this constant discomfort with the present life and then not wanting to improve on life right now, with the given options.
A kind of freeze frame where wtbyf are unable to do anything concrete and feel helpless constantly.

So what is the root of the problem? It is Money?

Just like when you enter a coffee shop and you can choose between a Cappuccino/ Latte/ Shot/Cold Coffee and what not. Here you are wanting to get a groom/ bride (better put a life partner) and you want options and you want to dissect them to feel sure that this will last for a lifetime. and when it does not fit the picture in your head you realise you want to keep looking and so you do …you look again, with few lessons learnt and you look and again it doesnt fit that picture in your head… so you look again

In the process you turn 32 and realise that you have no options except for more 32+ like you (who realise it is too late too) or the 25-28 category who can’t give two hoots about you.

All I am saying is stop looking and stop pursuing cause how long will you?
You have got to stop now and feel the breeze that is blowing right now and catch hold of that one person who is offering you a hand for life. Take a chance, take that risk and hopefully walk together in the sunset holding hands.

(Dedicated to my friend Gauri. Advice for Gau – don’t look so hard just decide once for all and trust me it will be all right)
Next entry – Is marriage the solution? lol